As a feminist (you’re totally allowed to roll your eyes) and a black woman (you’re still totally allowed to roll your eyes), I am deeply grateful for Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (Nigerian author of the best seller ”we should all be feminist”) for existing and for being the inspiring human being that she is.
When I started to unconsciously being a feminist (read my story here ), I had no words to describe it, no ”authentic” support system in my peripheral and full vision. The rare times where the word feminist would come up in a conversation, it was followed with scoffs as being ‘’a western thing’’.
I’m grateful for Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie for breaking barriers and not only being a truer inspiration and light to thousands of women all shapes, size and color but also providing us the right ammo to drop in our next fight with the patriarchy. (You roll your eyes but it’s true!).
Here are my favorite quotes from my shero, in hope that they will spark something in you too.
“What I want to say to young girls is forget about likeability. If you start off thinking of being likeable you’re not going to tell your story honestly because you’re going to be so concerned with not offending…
The world is such a wonderful, diverse, multi-faceted place that there’s somebody that’s going to like you. You don’t need to twist yourself into shapes.”
“ We teach girls shame. Close your legs. Cover yourself. We make them feel as though being born female, they are already guilty of something. And so girls grow up to be women who cannot say they have desire. Who silence themselves. Who cannot say what they truly think. Who have turned pretence into an art form.”
“Our society teaches a woman at a certain age who is unmarried to see it as deep personal failure. While a man at a certain age who is unmarried has not quite come around to making his pick.”
“Hire more women where there are few. But remember that a woman you hire doesn’t have to be exceptionally good. Like a majority of the men who get hired, she just needs to be good enough.”
“Commission magazine articles that teach men how to keep a woman happy. Because there are already too many articles that tell women how to keep a man happy.”
“Teach students to see that vulnerability is a human trait rather than a female trait.”
“By far the worst thing we do to males, by making them feel they have to be hard, is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is.”
“The shame we attach to female sexuality is about control. Many cultures and religions control women’s bodies in one way or another.”