AN HONEST TRUTH

Is it too soon to share this truth?
You tell me.
I don’t want to have children.
Too soon right? But guess what, I no longer care.
Why do I have to announce it? haha, because it is assumed that I should want to.
Every woman « should » aspire to have children. Isn’t that the dream and future of everyone that was born with a uterus?
Well let me quote something badass that I got reading Gloria Steinem quotes and my spirit clapped hands.
”Everybody with a womb doesn’t have to have a child any more than everybody with vocal cords has to be an opera singer.”
It is my personal choice although I know many might think it is morally wrong.
The more time passes, the more I come to terms with who I am and the things I like in life. If I can’t be honest with myself, then I’m fucking doomed!
I couldn’t care less when I was little, but as I grew up, it occurred to me like an « aha » moment.
It starred in my face, like a naked truth. It was a lonely place at first, I couldn’t voice it, it was fucking scary and I thought it was just another part of my weirdness.
When years later, I got the courage to voice it, I was met with a lot of incredulity; hurt faces; I knew you were weird but this? faces; gtfoh faces; you gonna learn faces…. But I was also able to realize that I was not the only one and there are a lot of women/girls who feel the same.
Don’t get me wrong, I do love children abundantly and I do not think they’re hideous or something.
I love mothering and I believe part of my calling on earth involves working for the well being of children, but still, nah nuh not for me. I’m open to the idea that I might adopt one day children to give them a chance for a better life if the circumstances arise but it is not something that I’m planning to do.
Honestly, it is scary to stand aside and say that you are doing things differently and that you will be happy, but I’m also tired of hearing that a woman’s potential is realized or fulfilled only when she gives birth. Seriously?
I think I have gained enough self assurance and confidence to do things differently and build a future that I first, am proud of…

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